Let’s talk about it: Why friendship is special but complicated.

Do you have great friends?

Duration: 50 minutes.

Let’s take a look at today’s lesson

In today’s lesson we will discuss the topic of friendship and I will teach you some vocabulary about the subject.
At the end, I will ask you some questions about the subject.

Lesson Key: (V) = Vocabulary. (U) = Understanding. (R) = Reading.

A friend is someone who…

A friend is someone who understands you, and if they don’t, they try to. They want to know what you’re all about and what you need. A friend is somebody who is there for you when they can be, but also sets boundaries when they need to. Many things make someone a good friend, and the definition of what makes a true friendship differs from person to person. In the video below are some qualities that make someone a friend that you’ll want to keep in your life for a long time.

  1. What do you like to do with your friends?
  2. What are some things you like most about your friends?
  3. Do you have any childhood friendships that are still strong today?
  4. Do you have any long distance friends? How do you keep in touch?
  5. Do you make friends easily?
  6. Have you made a friend on the Internet? How did you meet that friend?

Video Transcript: I’m 97 years old, and I wrote to my friend Cathy every day for 70 years.

Now let’s have a look, at some vocabulary and idioms about friends.

VocabularyDefinitionExample
MateA friendJohn is my mate from college.
PalA friend, often used in casual contextHe’s been my pal since primary school.
BestieBest friendMy bestie, Sarah, and I have known each other since we were kids.
Bosom buddyA very close, intimate friendHe’s my bosom buddy, we share everything.

Idiom: A shoulder to cry on.

Lisa, was going through a tough time. She had lost her job, and her parents were going through a divorce. She felt lost and alone, with nowhere to turn. That’s when she remembered her grandmother’s words: “Always have a shoulder to cry on.
Lisa reached out to an old friend, Sarah. Sarah was more than happy to listen to Lisa and offer her support and for the first time in weeks, she felt better. Now Lisa and Sarah are close friends again, talking on the phone every day and meeting up for coffee. Lisa realized that sometimes, all you need is someone to listen and offer a shoulder to cry on.

IdiomDefinitionExample
“Fair-weather friend”A friend who is only there in good timesHe’s a fair-weather friend, he disappears when things get tough.
“Friends through thick and thin”Friends who stick together in good times and badWe’ve been friends through thick and thin.
“A shoulder to cry on”A person who listens to your troubles and offers comfortWhen I lost my job, she was a shoulder to cry on.
“To be like two peas in a pod”Two friends who are always together and are very similarThose two are like peas in a pod, they’re inseparable.

Let’s talk about our friends!
I have written some examples of answers in simple and advanced English.

  1. Can you give any suggestions for making new friends when you start a new job or move to a new neighbourhood?
  2. How are your friendships different now than they were when you were a child?
  3. Do you have any suggestions for keeping good friends?
  4. Why do some friendships fall apart? (Think of various possible reasons.)
  5. An English proverb says, “A friend in need is a friend indeed.”
    Do you agree or disagree? Please explain.
  6. What qualities are most important in a friend?
    Do you have all of these qualities?

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